Tips for Coping with Infertility Testing and Diagnosis
Feelings associated with infertility can include
Hi, I'm Dr. Ingrid Rodi and I am a specialist in reproductive endocrinology and infertility with RodiMD.com. Today I am here on behalf of About.com to give you tips for coping with infertility testing and diagnosis.Most of us think that when it is time to start a family, we will be able to do so. We have been good about using contraception until the time is right, and all we need to do is to stop using birth control. Most of the time, in fact, pregnancy occurs without help. So, when it doesn't, it is upsetting.Often, we feel a lack of control over the process. Sometimes we feel angry that our friends and family have children and we don't. Occasionally, we feel shame and a diminished sense of self worth. What can we do to increase the chance that we are going to be able to stick with the evaluation and treatment until we are successful?The first thing I ask my patients to do is to not take it personally. There is no answer to the question: “Why me?” I also recommend not feeling guilty. We all make mistakes and we all make decisions, which, in retrospect, may not have worked out so well. Work with what you have and don't look back.One of the hardest things to do is to acknowledge the feelings. Denial can get in the way. Maintain a positive dialogue with your partner. People have different ways of dealing with adversity. Understand each other. Seek support from friends and family. Remember, however, that if you share this part of your life, you might get more unwanted advice than is helpful. Choose who you share the information with carefully.Let your doctor know that you are having a difficult time with the process. You and your partner may benefit from a support group or a consultation with a therapist. Stay positive, you are likely to be successful. Good luck.Thank you for watching. To learn more, visit us online at About.com.