首页>英语角 > 听力 > 美音 > 课 程 > 健康 > 高三>10 Signs of a Perfectionist
10 Signs of a Perfectionist
Question
A perfectionist may not take a risk because they are afraid of
提交
00:00
00:00
Hi I'm Christine Hassler, I'm a Life Coach, Author and Speaker, here today with About.com to talk to you about 10 signs that you're a perfectionist.So being successful does require paying attention to detail and setting goals and standards for yourself. But perfectionists tend to take it a little too far sometimes. For example, perfectionists tend to go into all or nothing type thinking. Either something has to be totally, totally perfect or it's not good at all. So if you find yourself going into nothing is ever good enough, that's the first sign that you're probably a perfectionist.The second sign is constantly having a critical eye and ear. Perfectionists can receive a hundred compliments, but they tend to remember only the one critique that they got. They can walk into a room and notice what's wrong, rather than what's right.#3, perfectionists tend to motivate themselves by pushing themselves, rather than allowing themselves to be pulled. Perfectionists think that they have to do it all on their own, and they push and push and push with a lot of force and a lot of shoulds. To balance that out, allow yourself to be pulled more. What are you inspired by? Who are the other people that can help you? You don't have to do it all on your own.#4 is setting unrealistic expectations. Perfectionists tend to put too much on their plate, or require themselves to complete things in too short of a period of time. They put standards on themselves and impose those expectations that they wouldn't even ask of other people. So if you find yourself holding yourself to a standard that you would not hold others to, you're a perfectionist.
#5, perfectionists are obsessed with results. They are always focused on the goal, on what they want to achieve. They don't enjoy the process at all. So if you find yourself almost addicted to the end result and aren't enjoying the journey along the way, you may want to back off your perfectionist tendencies a bit.
#6 being really depressed or overly disappointed by unmet goals. Since perfectionists tend to focus so much on the end result, they often suffer from what I call an expectation hangover. Being really lethargic, sad, living in regret, lacking motivation because something didn't go as you planned. Learn what you can from the unmet goal and then take a step forward.
#7 is fear of failure. Perfectionists really want things to go right, they want things to go their way. And so often times they are afraid of taking a risk because they're so afraid of failing. But failure is how we learn. Our mistakes are what teach us the biggest lessons. So if you're afraid of making a mistake, afraid of failing, you may be missing out on a really big learning opportunity.
#8 is procrastination. Now this may seem counterintuitive because perfectionists like to do so much, but often times that fear of failure stops perfectionists from doing anything at all. They are waiting so long for things to be just perfect that they never begin anything. So if you are waiting for everything to be absolutely perfect, you're probably procrastinating. What can you do today to get moving.So the 9th sign is being defensive. Perfectionists really love to be right and they like to look perfect to the world. So often times they're not so great about receiving feedback from other people. They just block it by being defensive. But if you're constantly defensive, you're not letting in information and insight that empowers you and helps you grow.The 10th side is low self-esteem. Often people become perfectionists because they are trying to compensate for something else. Feelings of insecurity and self-doubt often create an attachment to trying to perfect our outside world. So if you relate to this, see if you can find ways to increase your self-confidence and your self-esteem, rather than trying to perfect everything in your external world.
Thanks for watching. You can find out more online at About.com.
视频文本已隐藏,本文本来自网络或网友仅供参考
显示视频文本

Discuss

0 comments
characters remainingSubmit
反馈