How To Get Over A Crush
You can learn things about yourself after having a crush.
Hi, my name is Nikki. I am a counsellor and a psycho therapist. And I work a lot with teenagers. I am here to talk to you about some of the issues you might find that you are dealing with as a teenager, and to hopefully give you some tips that might be useful. I am going to talk to you about how to get over a crush. So if you are listening to this you obviously had a crush on someone and unfortunately for you it was not returned the attraction was not returned and it didn't go anywhere. And you are left feeling probably with your confidence knocked feeling quite low and all this energy that you put into fancying somebody and nothing became of it. So it is a hard time, and I think it is hard for anyone who has had a crush and then needs to get over the crush. Talk to your friends you know and let yourself get support. Let yourself have the time when you are not feeling so good. Friends will be there hopefully to encourage you talk to your parents or your sister or brother anyone around that you can feel comfortable talking to about having a crush on someone. If there is not someone around, talk to someone like childline. It is important I think to share to have someone to talk to about how awful you feel and how low you are feeling at the time. When you are feeling better, you are going to want to accept it because it is a natural part of life. A part of being young and a part of fancying people, it is a part of knowing that you don't always get the things and the people that you want so if you accept that it is a natural part of life there will be a time when you will want to get over it and you will want to move on you feel more ready to come back into the world with a smile on your face. Before you do that or when you are ready to do that, take responsibility for the good and the bad that came out of having the crush. There might have been a lot of good things that came out of having the crush. You might had some really good times talking to them or learned things about yourself. There might be things that you got wrong just see what you can learn from you know having had the crush for the next time is that you want to feel easier about talking to someone next time or would you just want to hide your nerves better. This is for you to think through but keep it in perspective remember that this will be one of many crushes so you know, at that time, it might feel overwhelming that you might never fancy someone so much again. There will be more people, there will be more boys or girls that you like, so remember the good times that you had as well and get ready to get out there to find other people attractive and enjoy other people's company and when you do enjoy it, and good luck. .