How To Resolve A Conflict With Your Child
Jayne Major gives expert video advice on:
If you and your child have a disagreement which you are in conflict about, in order to resolve it you first of all have to figure out what is the disagreement. A good many times when people are in conflict they are missing each other. They don't hear each other, they haven't heard adequately what the other person's talking about. So you need to communicate with each other in such a way, "I understand you. You understand me" so we know what we're talking about, to resolve conflict. Conflict implies emotions, "I feel very strongly about this" so there's some emotional component to it. You or the other person's in a highly emotional state so it's not likely you're going to be able to listen receptively to each other. In some cases to resolve conflict people need to go to someone separate from them. They need to go to a person who will be a mediator and doesn't have a vote but listens to both sides and help the two people really understand each other and resolve the conflict. Many times when people understand each other, "Oh. Oh, OK. That's what you..Oh," because they just didn't understand each other. And once they understand they can resolve the conflict very easily or they can learn to agree to disagree or they can collaborate on another kind of solution. A mediator, like another family member, or nowadays there are professional mediators...God bless them, it's a wonderful service...where they listen and they help people come up with creative solutions to resolve conflict that they couldn't have possibly thought of themselves.