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Cliques And Friends
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Cliques refers to a close band or company of friends that usually have the
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A clique is a very common term that's used now by kids in school. It refers to a close band or company of friends that usually have the same kind of interests and they hang out with each other.
Actually, kids form cliques at school because it's a natural kind of phenomenon. Kids like to feel like they're needed. They like to feel like they're being recognized of who they are and forming a clique is a natural trait. So often, if a youngster needs more of that kind of affirmation, cliques will provide that. In a school setting, normally the school tries to provide that too, by recognizing kids and that's when the PTA comes in, to provide those kinds of support activities. Otherwise, school principal's understand parts of a child's developmental needs to get recognized and so forth. So the cliques form to address that need.
A clique, as it's used now, usually means a tight group of friends. In some settings that's good. That can be very positive. In other settings it can be very damaging. The wise parent understands what the goals are, implied or unstated, doesn't matter, or stated, of the clique and, if it's a positive kind of thing, if they're a group of football players and they really band together because they're just really good friends, or they're study group partners and they just band together or they're kids in the neighborhood that band together, nothing wrong with that. However, if they decide to band together and steal hub caps, obviously, that can have negative repercussions. You don't want to encourage that.
Absolutely! A good parent always involves themselves with their child's social life. The question is how much you involve yourself so that you can adequately monitor that. As long as you're getting a sense if that is an appropriate activity, if everything is fine and if the situation is safe. If not, then you can take appropriate action. In general, the answer is yes. Involve yourself in those actives as appropriate.
It is really important for your child to make friends at school. It's a normal process that that normally happens if everything is okay. If you're finding that your child is isolating himself for some reason or another that means that you will have to engage in a conversation with your child. Collect some information and have a conversation with your child's teacher or classroom counselor or school counselor rather, to figure out how you can begin to socialize your youngster a little more. Recognizing that some students are introverted and others are not, there's nothing wrong with being introverted but there needs to be healthy interaction with kids in some level or another.
As a wise parent, when you make the decision should you buy clothes that are similar to their friends, you have to be careful about the value in which you are modeling to your youngster. If the clothes are appropriate, then by all means. If the clothes are very expensive, beyond your means, or perhaps provocative in some way or inappropriate for a school setting, then I think you have to take a strong line and say, “No. This is not appropriate for school. You can wear this after school. You can wear this on the weekends, but really this isn't appropriate for school.” So really you have to look at it individually and where your child's friends are going.
The key, I think, in terms of trying to limit your child's socialization time is to look at your child's overall schedule to make sure it's balanced; that he's meeting social needs, physical needs, as well as academic needs. Those are key. I just want to remind you as a good parent that it's key in today's globalized economy and in the future to make sure that your child is capable of socializing. You want him to socialize. That's going to be a key job factor, but you just don't want him to over socialize.
Transferring to a new school to support your youngster's social problems or resolving their social problems can be a solution. I think as a good parent, you have to get the big picture. You want to make sure that you as a parent have done everything possible to try and resolve whatever issues are there involving the guidance counselor, etc. so that you are getting different eyes to look at the situation involving your child. If that does not work, you've done that then changing schools could be another option because you are providing them with a fresh start and that fresh start gives them a chance to operationalize these new skills that they've picked up and implement them in a way that doesn't cause any negative reaction for them. So in that sense, that's a good way. There really isn't a yes or no answer to that.
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