What Are Defense Mechanisms?
If you're feeling safe and secure, and your self-esteem is good, you're going to be
Hi, this is Jane Fendelman for About.com and this video is about defense mechanisms. Defense mechanisms are a response to having a nerve struck. A defense mechanism is what kicks in when the way that we perceive ourselves has been threatened, or we perceive that it has been threatened by another (a person or a situation).Examples of defense mechanisms are the need to be right, the need to be acquiescent and always be meek or mild, yelling, walking out, slamming doors. Defense mechanisms come in all ways shapes and forms, and they look like our personality.It's a really good idea to stand outside of yourself and observe yourself so that you can notice what your defense mechanisms are. They're masks or a persona that we wear to protect a vulnerable part of ourselves. Sometimes we're simply afraid of being hurt or having our heart broken. We're afraid it doesn't look macho to look soft. Or we're afraid it's inappropriate because we wont appear feminine.Defense mechanisms can show up at any time in any situation whenever the stress volume gets turned up. You can notice if your defense mechanisms are running because you might have a drive to make sure that the people around you know you're right or that they are wrong. That's a defense mechanism. It causes closed mindedness. If you're feeling safe and secure, and your self-esteem is good you're going to be okay with other people's points of view. You're not going to feel like you have to defend. Defensiveness is a cover. It's an indicator of a deeper issue. Defensiveness is a reaction to a stimulus.When you refrain from the same old reaction you will be able to more easily see what the real problem is and then you'll be able to proceed more consciously, be able to take action instead of reacting, live a more empowered life. If you want a good homework assignment to break through your defenses, challenge yourself to do the opposite of what you normally do. So, if you usually get aggressive when you're upset, try staying calm and quiet. If you're usually meek and never speak up, force yourself to speak out and say what you're really feeling. You'll challenge your defenses and break through them you'll have a whole new experience and you'll become more enlightened. Your life will be improved.Thanks for watching and if you'd like to learn more visit us on the web at About.com.
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